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“Our life is frittered away by
detail. Simplify, simplify.” -HDT
This may be one of those entries that
leaves you all feeling like I'm a bit....sporadic. Okay maybe a lot a
bit. I digress.
Although the surface doesn't seem to
show much commotion, the tiny house project is very much alive. It's
been continuously permeating our life. Like the roots of a great oak,
it is ceaselessly stretching, grasping, and growing straight into
the soil that is us, since the moment the seed split. I find myself
analyzing every single act I perform in a day, and imagining how it
will be different, or perhaps even disappear in our new life. I have
grown a heightened awareness for all that is a convenience in the
life I currently lead, and I'll admit, sometimes it's scary to think
of all I will be giving up- but most of the time, it feels incredibly
liberating.
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A gift from my best friend, Rach.
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Over the past week, we've covered a
whole smattering of subjects....and emotions. This tiny house isn't
just a project. It's a choice to make a dramatic life-style change,
to live intentionally and sustainably. Although there have been
countless positive reactions and support from various sources, (and
we thank you all so much for that) there will be those that simply
don't relate or understand. But when it's someone so very important
to you, it can be very difficult to brush off and move along.
Choosing to leave the beaten path means you will walk a lonely road.
I sat through a conversation this week that zapped the energy right
out of me. I immediately felt all the negative thoughts start to
creep in from the perimeters of my mind, as if they'd just been
waiting for the right moment of weakness to pounce. I felt how desolate that road can be at times. I felt fear,
anxiety, and worst of all...doubt. What if it doesn't work? What if
we set something up wrong? What if it takes way longer than we
thought? What if we hate it?
It was a difficult few days, but
despite the heaviness and waves of defeat, I was always subtly aware
of one thing. This project, this monumental life choice, has somehow
manifest itself into this engine that sits in a far corner or my
mind...and it never stops. From the moment I open my eyes in the
morning until I lay my head back down again, I am aware. It churns
out a steady stream of thought with one single focus. How can I
simplify? Even toward the end of the day, when all other mental
functions have slowed or otherwise checked out, the engine hammers
on, churning out one contemplation after another. Drawing on some
secret fuel source meant specifically for this adventure.
During the aforementioned deflating
conversation, the question came up, “Why don't you just put a down
payment on a house?” He said it so blindly. It was as if he
completely missed how all encompassing this decision is to me. I want
to live intentionally. I guess many people have never given much
thought to what exactly that means. What living intentionally means
to me is this: moving through your days with the chosen
company of content and happiness, being present in the moment, being
fully aware of every act that I carry out in a day. Each of those
chores being necessary, useful, and beneficial to my day to day life.
I want to cut out all the crap, basically.
So the theme of this entry is SIMPLIFY.
Like I said, that little engine is
constantly pumping out a steady stream of ideas, propositions, and
questions. How can I simplify? How can I make this easier? How can I
make that more efficient? How can we use less? Do I really need this
in my life? How can we be more aware? What can I live without? What
can I learn?
What can I do now?
That last question comes around the
most often. It was a mixture of the doubt from that tough
conversation and the knowledge that I am continuously amassing that
lead us to decide not to begin the build this fall. I came upon this
great blog- 2cycle 2gether. (Psst! Liz, I think you would
really like this blog!) It's about a couple, Kai and Sheila, who have
decided to live intentionally and sustainably as well. Only they are
way more intense than us! They have also decided to go on a bicycle
tour around the world over the next three to six years. They are
currently in Mexico, but before they left, they built a tiny home to
come back to.
This blog is, by far, the most
meticulous and knowledgeable source I have come across to date. If I
choose to build more tiny homes in the future, I hope to reach the
level they are on. They not only dug into the nitty-gritty science of
building, which is very involved and made me want to hold off
consruction till spring, but they also made very specific material
choices. They have been environmentally conscious with every
selection: acquiring as many reclaimed materials as possible,
choosing plant fiber insulation vs Styrofoam, and staining their wood
with a natural stain mix then sealing with linseed oil- just to name
a few instances. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and guilty that I am
not making more of an effort to track down materials like they have.
Then I remember the bigger picture: choosing to live this way is
already a gargantuan step in the right direction. Even though we
won't approach their extreme, we will pick and choose certain methods
that work within our limits- like the linseed oil stain. I am
definitely going to do that.
The building science, however,
certainly paralyzed me with intimidation for a short time. They began
talking about how so many tiny house resources out there don't really
spend any time addressing the special circumstances of these
structures. There a unique characteristics to consider- like the
limited space, and how tightly sealed the building is. Air flow is
crucial, not only from a safety standpoint for the dwellers, but also
for moisture. If the structure gets wet and cannot breathe and dry
out, the integrity of the structure will be compromised.
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I'll use Kai's succinct description of
building science: “ It’s interdisciplinary focus delves into the
many factors that affect buildings, with an eye to understanding the
many forces at work and coming up with solutions and techniques to
minimize the negative effects of these forces on all aspects of a
building’s performance.” It was a dizzying entry to read, with
phrases like “building envelope”, “vapor barrier”, and
“thermal bridging” knocking me down a peg- closer to reality.
That, plus the incredibly detailed diagrams with explanations,
ultimately lead me to the conclusion that we have maaaannnny more things to
consider before we put hammer to nail. It does feel like a small
kind of defeat from time to time, thinking about how we won't
actually be doing any building for a few more months, but I never
dwell on any one thought for too long. Another awesome discovery
from this blog was Google Sketch Up. It's a free program that allows
you to create high quality 3D diagrams of buildings! I'll save all
that excitement for another entry.
So, what can I do now? Many
suggestions jump out at me: Educate yourself! Read up on key
subjects! Experiment now, so you have an idea of what something will
be like later! Start the mental and material transition! I have made
advances in all those directions.
EDUCATE YOURSELF. READ UP ON KEY
SUBJECTS.
I have explored more blogs and have
compiled a list of books to check out from the library-- if they have
them. First on my list? The Humanure Handbook. Yep, that's referring
to people pooh. I'm going to learn all about it, since we will have a
composting toilet. Aren't you excited to read about that shit? ;)
EXPERIMENT NOW.
This week, we had a great break-though
in regards to the plumbing. It was already very simplistic, making
use of gravity fed concepts and a small tankless water heater with a
12 volt pump. Originally, the system went a little something like
this: A 30 gallon tank would sit in the loft directly above the
shower and sink area; one main pipe would run down through the walls,
the first split would divide cold and hot water. The cold line going
all the way along the wall to meet the kitchen sink. The hot line
first going through the water heater then splitting again, one to the
shower and one all the way to the sink. Even this simple set up is
still a bit intimidating, and I was fixated on two things. How can I
make this easier? How fast will we go through that water storage?
That never-ending train of thought kept
throwing out possibilities, and as I came across stories of people
living even more extreme than I have envisioned (found a couple that
doesn't have a shower or a fridge! They shower at the gym or work and
then use passive refrigeration methods) I began to think more
extreme. It hit me like lightening the other day as we were leaving
the apartment for some errands. I was casually walking out the door
when the idea struck. “THAT'S IT!” I exclaimed as I jerked my
head around and whipped my arm out like a sword, pointing square in
Dan's face. He reacted much like it was a real blade as he replied
with bewilderment, “Um, what's it?” “I KNOW WHAT WE CAN DO TO
MAKE THE PLUMBING EASIER!” I squealed. “THE SHOWER! We can use a
camp shower set up!”
What I meant by that is those shower
set ups where it's basically a bag of warm water that you hang above
your head and use a simple nozzle to control the gravity charged flow
of water. This opened up all kinds of benefits and we carried on our
excited conversation all throughout our errands. We realized that
this would not only cut down on costs of materials and the level of
difficulty, but it would also inherently force us to be aware of how
much water we use. Now all the pipes can run through one interior
wall in the house- no need to worry about pipes freezing in exterior
walls. Now, we fill a water bag with certain amount of water,
controlling waste while showering- which was a big concern of ours.
Also, this is something we can experiment with now. We plan to get
the simple camp shower set up and go through a few test runs, just to
'get our feet wet' with a new, much more efficient hygiene practice.
Hehe- see what I did there?
START THE MENTAL AND MATERIAL
TRANSITION
As I mentioned in the beginning, my
thoughts and perspectives have already started to change. I find
myself analyzing what exactly constitutes a convenience versus a
necessity. The line has been blurred over so many generations; we
take so much for granted. Like running water. Before I used to
aimlessly leave the faucet running while I gave my teeth one or two
more scrubs. I'd let the shower get nice and steamy, dumping gallons
and gallons down the drain before I even stepped in. I'd crank the
hot nozzle on in the kitchen, meaning to rinse something, but then
stepping off to do another task and letting it flow...all I seem to
think about now is that 30 gallon tank. I ask myself all throughout
the day, “How much is left in the tank now? How often will we need
to refill at this rate? Can I be more efficient?” Running water is
not a necessity of life. Water itself, of course, is a necessity,
but having a limitless, highly pressured supply of on demand hot or
cold water is a downright luxury! To think I've spent so many years
completely oblivious to such a wonderful thing in my day to day life.
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Making a huge batch of 'Power Pancakes'
for Dan to snarf down throughout the week. |
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Power Pancake aftermath... |
I find myself appreciating my little apartment so much more. I
absolutely look forward to the tiny house, but I'm beginning to see
this place as a palace. I will miss my full size stove. I will miss
being able to carry out massive culinary operations requiring many
burners and many dishes. I will miss my island and all that
workspace. I'm also wondering how the dishes will go. We dirty
COUNTERFULS of dishes on a regular basis- we both have many dietary
restrictions, so we make just about everything we eat from scratch.
That will be interesting...
(Hey Judy- it's my g-free recipe if you're interested!)
As for the material side of this
transition, I have set up a schedule for myself. Every two weeks, I
will make a pass through all my clothes and accessories, and choose
items to donate. I will also focus on specific areas of the
apartment, and specific groups of things. Today I tackled books.
I've actually been reading a lot more lately. I'm reading this book
called, “The Happiness Project”. It's been very interesting and
I've really been able to relate, even in my unique circumstance. One
thing she said that really struck me, is that everyone, no matter
who, when asked about the one thing they wanted in life, or for their
children, the reply was unanimous: Happiness. Every last person,
from the blue collars to the CEO's, just wants to be happy. It is
what each person believes will help them achieve happiness that
differs. To some it is faith, to others it is money, to me, it is
this way of life. She also talked about downsizing material
possessions and the cathartic feelings that come with doing so. I've
said it before, I'll say it again. Getting rid of shit feels GOOD.
I'll admit, it was hard at first.
Making that initial pass through my clothes was shaky, I had those
old thoughts trying to elbow their way in, “I might want to wear
this....” or “It's good to have a couple of these..” Then I
applied my simple set of questions: “When was the last time you
wore this?” “How often do you wear this?” “Do you really even
like this style anymore?” and “Is there still a tag on it?”
This list of questions kept me on track
every time I wavered. I stood back and surveyed my work. The first
round yielded two big bags of clothes. I felt weightless as I dropped
off my donations. I haven't missed a single item I gave away. It has
been downhill ever since.
There are some things that will be hard
to pare down though. My books were a test. It's funny the things we
quietly lead ourselves to believe are a part of us. As if those
things being gone would somehow detract from the person you are. The
reality is, there are no objects that will truly contribute to your
character and who you are.
Nevertheless, I have always had a soft
spot for my book collection, as if it were an abstract reflection of
me. Sure the notion is romantic, but the truth was, I had read about
a fifth of them, with only two or three that I had any intention of
revisiting. A third of them came to join my collection simply because
the subjects resonated with me at the time. Well-those times have
passed...and there's this thing called a Public Library. I'll let them keep the books. I'm not sure what I was attempting to accomplish. Did I think
that someone would be wandering around my apartment while I wasn't
there, and peruse the titles of my library to surmise my personality
and character? No. Dork. They just sit on a shelf and collect dust,
and on occasion get to be the heaviest box full of shit you heave
around on moving day.
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Once I got warmed up... |
All you need is already within you.
Remove as many distractions from your life as possible, and focus on
exploring, developing, and understanding yourself. The rest will fall
into place as you go.
In the spirit of “The Happiness
Project” book, I'm reaching out to readers for the first time. In
the book, she writes about keeping a blog, and often would pose
questions to her readers, gaining a sense of community, support, and
refreshing perspectives. I'd like to do the same. So if you have a
moment, please do comment on my question.
If you had to downsize the amount of
stuff in your life, what thing or group of things would be hardest
for you to let go? Why?
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